So here’s the tea! These days, my life is pure chaos with a three-year-old ball of energy and an infant who runs the house. Let’s be real, before I had kids, I didn’t even drink coffee. Now? I survive on it. Motherhood has been an incredible journey, but whew, nobody warned me about this level of exhaustion.
Between diaper blowouts, toddler meltdowns, and the never-ending to-do list, I’ve realized that balancing it all is a myth—or at least, it looks way different than I expected. Some days, I feel like I’ve got it together, and other days, I’m just trying to keep my head above water.
But through all the chaos, I’ve learned some hard (but necessary) lessons that have completely shifted my perspective on motherhood.
1. There’s No Such Thing as the “Perfect” Mom
What does being a “perfect” mom even mean? Honestly, it’s a made-up standard that none of us can reach.
When I had my first child, I thought I had to do it all—stick to the schedules, keep everything spotless, follow all the advice from parenting blogs and well-meaning family members. Spoiler alert: It was impossible, and I drove myself crazy trying.
Now I know that being my best self is what makes me the perfect mom for my kids. I don’t have to be Pinterest-perfect—I just have to be present, loving, and give it my all. And guess what? That’s enough.
2. You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup
This one is still a work in progress for me. I love my kids, and I truly find joy in the little moments with them. But I also know that I need to hold on to the parts of me that existed before motherhood. The tricky part? Figuring out how.
Lately, I’ve been trying to bring them into things I already enjoy. Quick store runs? My toddler loves tagging along and “helping” push the cart. Coffee runs? It’s now a mini adventure with a cake pop for him and an caramel macchiato for me. It’s not always smooth (cue the unexpected tantrum in the checkout line), but finding small ways to keep bits of myself makes a huge difference.
I don’t have it all figured out, but I’m learning that making space for myself doesn’t mean I’m taking anything away from my kids. In fact, it’s teaching them that mom is a whole person too.
3. Every Mom’s Journey Looks Different
This one right here? It’s a game-changer.
There is no single “right way” to parent. What works for me might not work for you, and that’s okay. Some moms breastfeed, some bottle-feed. Some co-sleep, some sleep-train. Some moms thrive on schedules, while others go with the flow.
The truth is, we’re all figuring it out as we go. Every child is different, every mom is different, and every day brings new challenges. There’s no perfect formula—just love, patience, and doing what’s best for your family.
And Here’s The Truth
Motherhood is this beautiful, chaotic mix of joy and struggle, and it looks different for every mom. Some days you nail it, and other days, you’re just trying to keep everyone alive and happy. And guess what? That’s perfectly okay.
All of these lessons—letting go of perfection, finding joy in the everyday chaos, and embracing your unique journey—are part of what makes you the best mom for your kids. There’s no magic formula, just showing up and doing your best, one messy day at a time.
So if you’re out there juggling motherhood, feeling overwhelmed, and wondering if you’re doing it right—just know this: You are enough. You’re doing an amazing job. And even on the hard days, you are exactly the mom your kids need.
